Nothing hurts like rejection. Whether it happens on the playground, the boardroom, the marriage bed, or the church, rejection is a bitter pill to swallow. Even those who understand that God is always working for the good of those who love him suffer when a relationship is severed and someone they love turns their face and walks away. Part of the deepest pain I have felt over my church’s schism is the feeling of rejection by those who left my church. Family estrangements are always filled with hurt, confusion, and a feeling of “just not being good enough” for the one who departed.

When we are in those phases of waning relationships, we can find comfort in remembering that even our Lord felt the pangs of rejection, albeit on a much larger scale. He spent his entire life loving and caring for people and suffered a horrible rejection for it. Peter describes him as a cornerstone, and it is an apt description. A cornerstone is a large stone placed at the intersection of two masonry walls that form the foundation of a building. As such, it has come to mean something vitally important to a group or an idea, without which the system would fail.

Peter’s cornerstone reference comes from Psalm 118:22, a passage that these Jewish religious leaders would certainly have recognized:

The stone the builders rejected
    has become the cornerstone;
²³ the Lord has done this,
    and it is marvelous in our eyes.
²⁴ The Lord has done it this very day;
    let us rejoice today and be glad.

Does your church building have a cornerstone? It probably has a date engraved on it that indicates the year of construction. That engraving celebrates not only the year, but the people in the congregation at that time who were vitally essential in the church’s construction. We talk about things being the “cornerstone” of democracy, the “cornerstone” of our budget, and the “cornerstone” of our faith. Are you a cornerstone? It can be challenging to hold up heavy walls. Jesus knew this.

Acts 4 (Common English Bible)

⁵ The next day the leaders, elders, and legal experts gathered in Jerusalem,⁶ along with Annas the high priest, Caiaphas, John, Alexander, and others from the high priest’s family. ⁷ They had Peter and John brought before them and asked, “By what power or in what name did you do this?”

⁸ Then Peter, inspired by the Holy Spirit, answered, “Leaders of the people and elders, ⁹ are we being examined today because something good was done for a sick person, a good deed that healed him? ¹⁰ If so, then you and all the people of Israel need to know that this man stands healthy before you because of the name of Jesus Christ the Nazarene—whom you crucified but whom God raised from the dead. ¹¹ This Jesus is the stone you builders rejected; he has become the cornerstone! ¹² Salvation can be found in no one else. Throughout the whole world, no other name has been given among humans through which we must be saved.”

I have to wonder what was going on in the minds of Annas the high priest and Caiaphas. These men, who were so instrumental in Jesus’ crucifixion, are now first-hand witnesses to the power of the risen Lord. We have all been in situations where new information comes to light and we have to second guess our original assessment of an event, but can you imagine how they felt when they saw with their own eyes that you just can’t kill the Son of God?? You just can’t kill the power of the Holy Spirit! You just can’t kill a movement of disciples and followers who are about to take on the ministry that Jesus started and go to the ends of the known world proclaiming his good news.

Perhaps it is good for us today to acknowledge that Jesus’ rejection was necessary for the healing of the world. As I look back on times when I have suffered a rejection, I can find some good there. Rejections forced me to move on, to be more realistic in my expectations, and to seek out more stable and healthy relationships. If you are struggling today with feelings of being rejected, take heart. Jesus will indeed work it out someday for your own good, too.

Bloom Where You’re Planted by Kathy Schumacher