Hot Chicken Salad

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Have you ever resisted someone’s help? Thinking that you had everything under control, did you ever reject the kind ministrations of friends and just plugged along in your misery? False pride, embarrassment, stubbornness, and a sense of not wanting to appear weak can turn our heads away from the compassionate offering that a friend is trying to make. When we do that, we miss out on so much.

Many years ago, my daughter had to come home from college when she was diagnosed with cancer. She lived with us for nine months while she underwent daily chemotherapy, surgeries, and procedures. We were overwhelmed with her care, and our loving and supportive church tried to help. I was serving as a pastor on that staff and really resisted any assistance. Cards and gifts for my daughter were welcome and appreciated, but any offering of help for her father and me as caregivers was rejected. “We’re okay, we’ve got this, we’re good” became my mantra when any kind soul offered support for us. How foolish I was! Talk about stupid and unnecessary pride. Finally I realized that my pride was preventing the church from being the church to us, so I began to accept meals. We’re Methodist, and casseroles are our love language! I was inadvertently stopping people from loving on us and doing the acts of ministry that God was calling them to do for our family.

The first delivery was something called “Hot Chicken Salad.” This casserole dish of pure heaven was not a salad as such, but a culinary adventure in beautiful white chicken chunks, crunchy slivered almonds, and a saucy sauce that made my eyes roll back in my head. And for that moment, I was uplifted by the gift of a friend and church member who was also uplifted to be able to do something tangible in our fight against cancer. I still make that recipe today.

In our passage today, we see Jesus offer an act of ministry to a man who was born blind.

John 9 (The Message)

 1-2 Walking down the street, Jesus saw a man blind from birth. His disciples asked, “Rabbi, who sinned: this man or his parents, causing him to be born blind?”

Right from the bat we see that the disciples asked the wrong question. They were focused on trying to figure out the theology behind the blindness, proving that they were blind to his need. Jesus focused on a compassionate response.

3-5 Jesus said, “You’re asking the wrong question. You’re looking for someone to blame. There is no such cause-effect here. Look instead for what God can do. We need to be energetically at work for the One who sent me here, working while the sun shines. When night falls, the workday is over. For as long as I am in the world, there is plenty of light. I am the world’s Light.”

We often hesitate to step into places of helping a stranger. We ask how the unhoused person ended up that way. We question if giving the person on the street some money might enable them to go off and get high. We question how the mother with a lot of kids in tow ended up on food stamps. We hesitate to support the veteran found sleeping in the freezing rain because we don’t trust the GoFundMe that a community member set up.

We ask the wrong question.

6-7 He said this and then spit in the dust, made a clay paste with the saliva, rubbed the paste on the blind man’s eyes, and said, “Go, wash at the Pool of Siloam” (Siloam means “Sent”). The man went and washed—and saw.

Dust and clay played an important role in Genesis 2:7: 7 then the Lord God formed man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being. (Common English Bible) Jesus’ use of dust in this healing miracle harkens back to the power of creation. Indeed, Jesus created sight in the blind man. What is he trying to create in you today? What are you blind to? Where is God hoping to open your eyes so that you might offer a compassionate response?

The last sentence reminds us that when we are offered healing, we need to participate. The man went and washed and he saw. I accepted a gift of a meal and ate of the bread of empathy that night, and it made me stronger. Is God calling you to participate in your own miracle?

Say yes to the Hot Chicken Salad. It will change your life.

Soon by Kathy Schumacher

On the Basis of Grace

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I had a conversation with a young woman last week who was unsettled by a sermon she had recently heard. The preacher recounted his cancer journey and made several statements that led the listeners to believe that he was cured because he was a preacher, and that if you pray hard enough, God will heal you. Thus, if you weren’t healed, it is because you didn’t pray hard enough. This rankled the woman, also a cancer survivor, because she doesn’t think God works that way. She does not believe that God arbitrarily chooses to heal one and condemn another to die. She does not believe her healing came from any action on her part. Many prayers were offered during her treatment, but that is not why she was healed. She believes God healed her through grace and good medicine. She believes that things just happen as they happen.

What do you think?

Understanding the concept of grace is fundamental to understanding the concept of God. Many faith practices emphasize righteousness by following a long set of rules, complying with the Law, or performing enough good deeds to “get in.” But we know that it is only by grace that we are saved.

Let’s take a look at Paul’s thoughts on righteousness, following the law, earning things on your own, and grace. This passage does not answer the question of how healing happens but helps us understand the basic issue of grace.

Romans 4 (Common English Bible)


4 So what are we going to say? Are we going to find that Abraham is our ancestor on the basis of genealogy? 2 Because if Abraham was made righteous because of his actions, he would have had a reason to brag, but not in front of God. 3 What does the scripture say? Abraham had faith in God, and it was credited to him as righteousness.  4 Workers’ salaries aren’t credited to them on the basis of an employer’s grace but rather on the basis of what they deserve. 5 But faith is credited as righteousness to those who don’t work, because they have faith in God who makes the ungodly righteous.

Paul was clearly in the camp of those who believe that one can’t claim to be able to work for their righteousness. No, he contended, faith is the result of the righteousness credited to us by the gift of God. Read how Eugene Peterson described it in the Message:

Romans 4 (The Message)

4-5 If you’re a hard worker and do a good job, you deserve your pay; we don’t call your wages a gift. But if you see that the job is too big for you, that it’s something only God can do, and you trust him to do it—you could never do it for yourself no matter how hard and long you worked—well, that trusting-him-to-do-it is what gets you set right with God, by God. Sheer gift.

“Sheer gift.” In other words, you can’t earn it, you can’t work hard for it, you can’t be entitled to it based on your status or profession, you just have to be willing to receive it as a sheer gift. No strings attached, nothing to do on your part, money back guarantee with no questions asked gift. Our salvation and our inheritance as children of God are grace-based offerings that are freely given to all.

Romans 4 (Common English Bible) continued

13 The promise to Abraham and to his descendants, that he would inherit the world, didn’t come through the Law but through the righteousness that comes from faith. 14 If they inherit because of the Law, then faith has no effect and the promise has been canceled. 15 The Law brings about wrath. But when there isn’t any law, there isn’t any violation of the law. 

16 That’s why the inheritance comes through faith, so that it will be on the basis of God’s grace. In that way, the promise is secure for all of Abraham’s descendants, not just for those who are related by Law but also for those who are related by the faith of Abraham, who is the father of all of us. 17 As it is written: I have appointed you to be the father of many nations. So Abraham is our father in the eyes of God in whom he had faith, the God who gives life to the dead and calls things that don’t exist into existence.

You see, the preacher was wrong. He was the blessed recipient of something he couldn’t earn and didn’t deserve just because he is faithful to his calling. He is a walking example of the sheer gift of God’s unmerited favor and love.

May we all embrace this wonderful gift.

Sunrise Gift by Dustin Daniels

Relentless Love

Posted on by Betsy

The word relentless conjures up so many images. The helpful salesman at the car dealership. Athletes preparing for the Olympics. Perfume-sample people at the mall. Wrestlers. A two-year-old. The pace of the music in Hamilton.

To be relentless is to “show no abatement of severity, intensity, strength, or pace: To be unrelenting.” Relentless people have a stick-to-itiveness that others lack. Relentless people get the job done. I often think that if I had been relentless in my piano practicing, I might actually play the piano today. I do not. Somewhere along the way, other things crowded in and I lost my momentum. Has that ever happened to you?

One thing that is completely relentless is God’s love for you.

Romans 8 (The Message)

31-39 So, what do you think? With God on our side like this, how can we lose? If God didn’t hesitate to put everything on the line for us, embracing our condition and exposing himself to the worst by sending his own Son, is there anything else he wouldn’t gladly and freely do for us? And who would dare tangle with God by messing with one of God’s chosen? Who would dare even to point a finger?

The One who died for us—who was raised to life for us!—is in the presence of God at this very moment sticking up for us. Do you think anyone is going to be able to drive a wedge between us and Christ’s love for us? There is no way! Not trouble, not hard times, not hatred, not hunger, not homelessness, not bullying threats, not backstabbing…

…None of this fazes us because Jesus loves us. I’m absolutely convinced that nothing—nothing living or dead, angelic or demonic, today or tomorrow, high or low, thinkable or unthinkable—absolutely nothing can get between us and God’s love because of the way that Jesus our Master has embraced us.

It doesn’t matter what you’ve done.

It doesn’t matter who you are.

It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve gone backwards.

It doesn’t matter how deep your sin is, how high your disobedience gets, how wide your lies are, or how narrow your hope is.

It doesn’t matter.

God’s love for you and his relentless forgiveness will follow you to the depths of hell and bring you back. Nothing can get between you and God’s relentless love because of the way that Jesus has embraced you.

So the next time you fall flat on your face and can’t get up, remember that God put his life on the line for you, and nothing … not trouble, not hatred, not hard times, or hunger … nothing can separate you from the great love of God through Jesus Christ, our relentless savior.

Key Largo Sunset

Stubborn Mules

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Consider the poor mule. Through no fault of his own, he has gotten the reputation of being stubborn. Truth be told, mules are highly intelligent animals who are cautious and act out of a sense of self-preservation. Unlike the horse, whose first instinct is to flee, a mule will carefully consider his options for safety. If an instruction seems illogical or risky, he will refuse it. Unlike Yellow Labs, who just truly are stubborn for stubborn’s sake, the mule is a considerate thinker. We need to change our cliche to “stubborn as a Lab.”

It is amusing to see David use that phrase about mules in today’s lectionary passage. He tells us not to be like the “senseless horse or mule” that has to be led by a bridle.

Read the first two sections for clues on what David says we are being stubborn about.

Psalm 32 (Common English Bible)

2 The one whose wrongdoing is forgiven,
    whose sin is covered over, is truly happy!
2 The one the Lord doesn’t consider guilty—
    in whose spirit there is no dishonesty—
    that one is truly happy!

3 When I kept quiet, my bones wore out;
    I was groaning all day long—
    every day, every night!—
4 because your hand was heavy upon me.
    My energy was sapped as if in a summer drought. Selah

David asserted that keeping quiet about sin is an unnecessary burden that leads to great unhappiness. Refusing to confess and repent led him to groan all day and left him feeling wasted away. There is a simple solution to this, said David. Simply admit guilt, reveal your sin, and God will remove it.

5 So I admitted my sin to you;
    I didn’t conceal my guilt.
    “I’ll confess my sins to the Lord, ” is what I said.
    Then you removed the guilt of my sin. Selah

6 That’s why all the faithful should pray to you during troubled times,
    so that a great flood of water won’t reach them.
7 You are my secret hideout!
    You protect me from trouble.
    You surround me with songs of rescue! Selah

Many decades ago I had an opportunity to minister to a woman whose guilt had wasted her entire life away. We sat under a piano in a church’s Fellowship Hall until 3:00 in the morning as she poured out her life story to me. As a very young wife, she had an affair with a man of a different race. The affair resulted in a pregnancy that she was sure she could not pass off as her husband’s, so she had an abortion. Her deep guilt over the whole thing led her to self-medicate with alcohol and eventually drugs. One addiction fed another and she eventually lost her job, her marriage, and custody of her children. She met me after twenty years of this wasting. A church had reached out to her to attend the retreat I was leading, and she was working hard to live a clean life. But one thing was missing. She had never received Christ’s forgiveness, so she had never forgiven herself. Her new church had taught her about Jesus, but she was convinced that she was unworthy.

I began to talk about what happened on the cross. She was familiar with everything I said, but still stubbornly refused his forgiveness. The hour was late, the floor was cold, and the pastor was exhausted. Finally I asked her if she thought that she was so special that the redemption of the cross didn’t apply to her. I asked her if she thought that she was really so extraordinary that the power of Jesus’ crucifixion and resurrection was good enough for everyone but her. Did the power of her sin defeat the power of the cross because it was stronger? Then she broke. God broke that chain of being addicted to her past and set her free. The next morning she was a completely new woman. I ran into her years later and she was remarried, had finished her degree, and was a successful banker in her town.

Lent is about learning that you aren’t stronger than God. Lent is about understanding the damage of sin and how confession and repentance are the only things that will heal you. Lent is the time to uncover long-buried guilt and get rid of it.

8 I will instruct you and teach you
    about the direction you should go.
    I’ll advise you and keep my eye on you.
9 Don’t be like some senseless horse or mule,
    whose movement must be controlled
    with a bit and a bridle.

Don’t be anything like that!
10 The pain of the wicked is severe,
    but faithful love surrounds the one who trusts the Lord.
11 You who are righteous, rejoice in the Lord and be glad!
    All you whose hearts are right, sing out in joy!

So let us repent and move on. Let us rejoice and be glad! Let us sing out in joy.

And let’s stop being as stubborn as a Yellow Lab.

Playing Keep Away by Ashten Ree Avery

Look! Look!

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Today is Ash Wednesday. I hope you have made a plan to get smudged. Ash smudges remind us of our mortality and that we all end this life on earth as ashes and dust. As we contemplate that somber Debbie Downer reality, we begin our 40 day spiritual trek toward the cross and eventually the empty tomb. I have always loved and hated Lent for its long winter night of the soul, but I have never finished this reflection marathon without a deeper sense of who I am and whose I am. It is worth the effort. It is worth the surgical deep cut. It is worth the sense of wonder and awe that comes from walking with Jesus in his desolate and lonesome valley.

We typically start Lent with Joel’s beautiful words of invitation to return to God from our gloom (Joel 2: 1-2, 12-17), or Isaiah’s challenge to choose the fast that pleases God and not you (Isaiah 58). But today we will submerge ourselves into Paul’s second letter to the Corinthians and see what Lenten practices we might glean from this lectionary passage. Lenten disciplines include fasting, Scripture reading, confession, repentance, service, meditation, and worship. Many of us are looking for a list of Lenten-Do’s as a way of growing stronger in our faith. Many of us would do well to focus on Lenten-Don’ts. But in any case, let’s see what Paul advises his church in regard to being better and stronger representatives of Christ as a blueprint for a different kind of Lent this year.

2 Corinthians 5 (Common English Bible)

20 So we are ambassadors who represent Christ. God is negotiating with you through us. We beg you as Christ’s representatives, “Be reconciled to God!” 21 God caused the one who didn’t know sin to be sin for our sake so that through him we could become the righteousness of God. 6 1 Since we work together with him, we are also begging you not to receive the grace of God in vain. 2 He says, I listened to you at the right time, and I helped you on the day of salvation. Look, now is the right time! Look, now is the day of salvation!

So our first task is to acknowledge the blessing of God’s grace and how immediate God was in his response to our need. Look! Look! God proclaims that the day of salvation is here. As representatives of Christ, we must call others to reconcile with God. Now is the time!

3 We don’t give anyone any reason to be offended about anything so that our ministry won’t be criticized. 4 Instead, we commend ourselves as ministers of God in every way. We did this with our great endurance through problems, disasters, and stressful situations. 5 We went through beatings, imprisonments, and riots. We experienced hard work, sleepless nights, and hunger. 

If you have suffered for your witness, take heart. Paul and his followers went through it all and more. That is the cost of doing and being the Gospel.

6 We displayed purity, knowledge, patience, and generosity. We served with the Holy Spirit, genuine love, 7 telling the truth, and God’s power. We carried the weapons of righteousness in our right hand and our left hand. 

Here is your list of Lenten practices:

Seek to always display purity in every thought, word, deed, and post. Yes, every post.

Increase your knowledge of God every day by reading your Bible. I’ll cover Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays but you’re on your own for the rest of the week.

Be generous! Share your time, your resources, your money, and your presence with others.

Genuinely love other people with the help of the Holy Spirit. You’ll need the Holy Spirit for some of them.

Only tell the truth. This truly is the hardest 40 day challenge on the list. Thank goodness we get Sunday’s off.

Access God’s power. God will enable you to accomplish these Lenten practices if you let him.

Use God’s righteousness as tools of engagement. After all, this is the Lord’s work. We are just the representatives.

8 We were treated with honor and dishonor and with verbal abuse and good evaluation. We were seen as both fake and real, 9 as unknown and well known, as dying—and look, we are alive! We were seen as punished but not killed, 10 as going through pain but always happy, as poor but making many rich, and as having nothing but owning everything.

As I said to my running partner recently after finishing a hot and humid Half Marathon, “We’re not dead yet.” Paul’s example of persistence in witness will serve us well as we seek to include others in our Lenten endeavors this year. If that list seems impossible, focus on just one or two and go from there.

May God grant us a Holy Lent.

My Friend Tim

God Laughs

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They say that laughter is good for the soul, and I think that is true. I had an opportunity last weekend to spend time with my daughters as we celebrated the eldest’s birthday. The days were filled with their childhood memories, jokes and silly stories, cleverly snappy retorts, and a lot of giggles. I realized at the end of the weekend that I was quite tired and quite satisfied. We had laughed our way through the hours together and my pulse was lowered, my blood pressure had stabilized, my shoulders were relaxed from their usual taut position of sitting around my ears, and I slept really well.

Did you ever wonder what makes God laugh?

I imagine God laughs at things that make us laugh: Pandas who tumble uncoordinated around their habitats, puppies scampering after their siblings, children flying high on playground swings, etc. But God is actually quite serious in his laughter. He laughs at the futile attempts of people who seek to scheme against him and band together to defeat his Anointed One. He laughs at our stupidity. He must be rolling in the clouds right now.

Psalm 2 (Common English Bible)

Why do the nations rant?
    Why do the peoples rave uselessly?
2 The earth’s rulers take their stand;
    the leaders scheme together
    against the Lord and
    against his anointed one.

Ever since the Tower of Babel in Genesis 11, humans have tried to band together to outwit, outthink, and outsmart God. Legend suggests that after this event God scattered the peoples and separated them by language so that this would never happen again. Yet here in David’s time, we see once again a coalition of schemers trying to take a stand against God.


3         “Come!” they say.
        “We will tear off their ropes
        and throw off their chains!”
4 The one who rules in heaven laughs;
    my Lord makes fun of them.
5 But then God speaks to them angrily;
    then he terrifies them with his fury:
6         “I hereby appoint my king on Zion,
        my holy mountain!”

God’s laughter comes from a place of holy righteousness and the strength of his love for us. Like parents who set rules and boundaries for the good of their children, his warnings and derision come from a place of compassion.

7 I will announce the Lord’s decision:
    He said to me, “You are my son,
        today I have become your father.
8 Just ask me,
    and I will make the nations your possession;
    the far corners of the earth will be your property.
9 You will smash them with an iron rod;
    you will shatter them like a pottery jar.”

This future-forward look at Jesus’ Second Coming gives hope to us as we are heart-sick and wearied by the world’s leaders who turn their backs on God and perpetrate unthinkable crimes against humanity. Hold on, David is saying. When Christ returns, the evil among us will be shattered like frail pottery jars and Jesus will reign with equity, compassion, harmony, and love.

10 So kings, wise up!
    Be warned, you rulers of the earth!
11 Serve the Lord reverently—
    trembling, 12 kiss his feet
        or else he will become angry,
        and your way will be destroyed
    because his anger ignites in an instant.

But all who take refuge in the Lord are truly happy!

Happiness is found in taking refuge in the Lord. Only there can we be truly safe and protected from the horrors of this world. And that, my friends, is something to smile about.

Path to the Moon by Wende Pritchard

Endless Patience

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Do you have something in your past that you would rather forget? I know I do!

Paul’s letter in First Timothy reveals an uncomfortable truth about his past. He reminded Timothy of the time when he was Saul of Tarsus and he violently persecuted Christians for their beliefs. He was present at the stoning of Stephen and was “extremely zealous” and famously violent for persecution “beyond measure” (Galatians 1). He was a Pharisee, a Roman citizen, a tent maker by trade, and yet God used all of his sinful past to convert the world after he first converted Saul on the road to Damascus.

I think it is easy to forget Paul’s violent beginnings as we study his many letters and his theology. Paul brought the Gospel to the modern world in a stunning series of missionary journeys that included imprisonment, shipwrecks, great personal cost, and eventually death. 

This passage in 1 Timothy talks about his appointment to ministry in spite of his past:

1 Timothy 1 (Common English Bible)

12 I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who has given me strength because he considered me faithful. So, he appointed me to ministry 13 even though I used to speak against him, attack his people, and I was proud. But I was shown mercy because I acted in ignorance and without faith. 14 Our Lord’s favor poured all over me along with the faithfulness and love that are in Christ Jesus. 

15 This saying is reliable and deserves full acceptance: “Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners”—and I’m the biggest sinner of all.16 But this is why I was shown mercy, so that Christ Jesus could show his endless patience to me first of all. So, I’m an example for those who are going to believe in him for eternal life. 17 Now to the king of the ages, to the immortal, invisible, and only God, may honor and glory be given to him forever and always! Amen.

What a remarkable reversal!

The persecutor became the proclaimer.

The sinner became the saint.

The faithless one became the leader of the faithful.

The Lord’s favor was poured out over Saul, and he received the faithfulness and love that are in Christ Jesus. Endless patience won out.

What do you have in your past that either enables or hinders you from sharing the gospel? Paul’s story is a powerful reminder of the power of forgiveness of sin to wash away all of our transgressions. It is also a good reminder to us that God loves every sinner and shows mercy and patience to all. When we sit in judgment of other people’s sins, we sit outside of God’s great plan to bring Jesus into the world to save sinners. All the doors of redemption must be left open for the Sauls to come in.

If the “biggest sinner of all” can be made new and whole through the mercy and grace of the Lord, so can the rest of us.

Do you have a story of a past that was changed? With God’s help, you can do great things.

Go and tell!

Poured Out by Kathy Schumacher

snOBX

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Last week’s massive snow storm hit the Outer Banks like a Super Bowl linebacker on cocaine. Upwards of 12 inches of snow were dumped during hurricane force winds, leaving homes without heat, power, internet, or even a way to get out of the driveway. Down in Buxton, four more beach houses fell into the ocean due to incredible storm surges and flooding. This makes twenty houses claimed by the sea since September. Highway 12 and the northern part of Ocracoke were closed. It was an Armageddon in real time, serving up challenge after challenge to our frail barrier islands. And the challenges remain, as we are a beach area with minimal snow removal equipment.

Outer Bankers are hearty people who are used to storms, and it was inspiring to see the community reaching out to support one another. An older couple in my church went without heat for hours. Once that was posted on Facebook, another family in the church quickly opened their home to the couple and their cat. Immediately, another church member offered transportation with their four-wheel drive vehicle. The local Stack ‘Em High Pancakes and More restaurant delivered hot meals to the Dominion Power workers who risked life and limb to restore power to the blacked out neighborhoods. The owner of the restaurant risked life and limb to deliver the food during the worst of the storm. Churches quickly pivoted to online worship services. The fire station where I serve as a volunteer chaplain was staffed overnight by volunteers who sheltered in the bunk room so that they could immediately respond to emergencies. Suddenly all of our political differences and arguments fell by the wayside, and we became one united community. Why, oh why, does it take a disaster for us to come to our senses?

Paul was no stranger to a community divided.

1 Corinthians 1 (The Message)

10 I have a serious concern to bring up with you, my friends, using the authority of Jesus, our Master. I’ll put it as urgently as I can: You must get along with each other. You must learn to be considerate of one another, cultivating a life in common.

Paul had to deal with divisions and arguments in the church at Corinth. People had taken sides and claimed that their conversions were superior to other people’s conversions based on who it was who had converted them. In other words, they had fallen into personality cults and thought their leader was so worthy of their loyalty and worship that they then had the right to look down on anyone who didn’t follow the same person.

Sound familiar?

Paul stepped in and urged them to drop their faux followings and follow only Jesus, the Master. He demanded that they learn to be considerate of one another. He required them to cultivate a life in common, much like we do when disaster hits and we reach out to a neighbor.

The people of the Outer Banks set a beautiful example of selfless community response during this recent weather event. That’s what we do and who we are.

Now if only we could all learn to do this without the storm.

Stormy Weather by Kristine Kiousis

“Got It.”

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The new Alexa voice is sassy. Suddenly this appliance with which we have grown so comfortable has now become a petulant teenager who rolls her eyes, stamps her foot and exhales an exasperated “Got it!” in place of her former soothing “Okay.” A month or so ago we were pestered by old Alexa to try her new version, Alexa Plus, but we resisted. Alexa, you were fine just the way you were. Leave us alone. But somehow, without bidding, her tone has changed and now we get flippant Alexa whenever we politely ask her to turn on the lights. Got it! For real, Alexa?

Tone is everything isn’t it?

Having survived the nuclear winter that is raising teenage girls, I stand battered and bruised but still breathing in full assurance that tone is everything. When your once sweet little girl suddenly becomes Satan’s spawn and a simple inquiry about her breakfast preferences results in a scorched-earth reply, you realize that both your tone and her tone are important. Fortunately teenagers eventually grow out of their recalcitrant phase and parents eventually grow back their singed eyebrows. But inflection, timing, and word choice still matter.

Paul knew something about this.

Colossians 4:6 (Common English Bible)

6 Your speech should always be gracious and sprinkled with insight so that you may know how to respond to every person.

In his letter to the church in Colosse, Paul addressed the issue of public witness and the impact the church was making on non-believers. There was an issue of internal heresy going around the church and Paul was trying to address that while also reminding them that everything they said and did on the street was a direct reflection of their Christian walk. The community was watching and the witness of the gospel was suffering. He reminded them that their speech must be both grace-filled as people who have received the grace of God and gracious as people who have been sent forth to tell of that grace.

Christian conversation must be both filled with charm and sprinkled with wit so that it might be winsome to those who don’t believe. Sanctimonious declarations that sound dull and preachy will not convert the world. Neither will Christians who engage in hate speech or blatantly support hate groups and hate agendas. One of the greatest challenges of this generation of witnesses is to be careful not to post or proclaim anything that contradicts the teachings of our gentle Savior. People are watching! Jesus is watching.

How are you revealing the risen Christ in your conversations? Does your tone reflect his unconditional love for everyone? Are your posts something Jesus would be proud of ? Will they know you are Christian by your love?

Words matter. Tone matters. Intention matters. Your witness matters. If you can’t say something nice, maybe shut up.

Got it?

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