1 Thessalonians 3

Parental Anxiety

Posted on by Betsy

I have a question for the parents today. Do you ever reach a point with your kids where you stop worrying about them? Watching the young parents in my church as they watch over their children reminds me of all the sleepless nights during my own childrearing days when the pressure and anxiety I felt over their safety and well-being was overwhelming at times. Being married to a pilot who flew international trips meant that I was sole-parenting for about half the month, and the responsibility for their care fell squarely on me. Thank God for our church, which walked beside me in my soul-parenting efforts in those days and carried the burden of care with me through pre-school, children, and youth programs. There were other adults who loved and nurtured my kids at church, and I felt the momentary relief that came from trusting them over to the watchful hearts of church members. My youngest daughter is now a member of that same church, and last Sunday morning we gave over the care of my three grandchildren to Tim, Beth, and Gigi, three of the extraordinary human beings who loved on my two kids when they were growing up and continue to love on the next generation in the name and for the sake of Jesus. What a tremendous blessing children’s ministry volunteers are!

When my daughters got married, I was grateful that there would now be someone in their lives taking care of them. I felt relief that there were two lovely husbands who would now shoulder the responsibility for their well-being. I especially felt relieved that they would be right there for my daughters when I couldn’t be. But I still worry. All the time. Do you ever let go of that?

 Today I want to dive into Paul’s letter to his church in Thessalonica, where we can feel his parental anxiety coming through the pages. The new church was dealing with problems and persecutions for their faith, and Paul just wanted to run to their side. But like that Mom who can’t turn the car around and sit in her son’s dorm room for a semester, Paul can’t discontinue his own work to come back to check on them. So he sends his trusted friend Timothy to render assistance and encouragement.

1 Thessalonians 3 (Common English Bible)
1So when we couldn’t stand it any longer, we thought it was a good idea to stay on in Athens by ourselves, 2 and we sent you Timothy, who is our brother and God’s coworker in the good news about Christ. We sent him to strengthen and encourage you in your faithfulness. 3 We didn’t want any of you to be shaken by these problems. You know very well that we were meant to go through this. 4 In fact, when we were with you, we kept on predicting that we were going to face problems exactly like what happened, as you know. 5 That’s why I sent Timothy to find out about your faithfulness when I couldn’t stand it anymore.

 I love how Paul repeated himself when he said, “I couldn’t stand it (i.e. being away from them) anymore.” Have you ever felt that way when you were worried over a child? Have you ever wanted to get in the car and go and peek in their window just to assure yourself that they are alright? Have you ever called or texted too much, just to put your anxiety at ease? I have.

You know, there is an antidote to this kind of worry: it’s called prayer.

When the weight of parenting gets too heavy, it is good to let it press you straight down to your knees. By turning our loved ones over to God’s care, we know we have reached out to One who loves them even more that we do and has the power to protect, guide, and save them in ways that we never could. Paul tells his church that he had been praying “night and day” (verse 10), a good reminder to take our anxiety to God daily in prayer and leave it there. 

And maybe you could be a Beth, Tim, or Gigi to a child in your church or neighborhood. If you ask any of them why they have volunteered in children’s ministry for so long, they will recount countless blessings they have received from their work. Are you being called to be blessed to be a blessing so that young parents in your church can have a moment of respite? There is no more vital work to be done than that, I promise you.

Today’s Scripture is an opportunity to take a moment to practice waiting on God. Can you replace your anxiety as you wait for God to resolve something this week by simply praying about it, night and day? Give it a try. God is able!

Waiting on God by Michelle Robertson

By Our Love

Posted on by Betsy

Growing up in the United Methodist Church, I spent a lot of time in VBS and Youth Group settings where singing was the norm. I like to sing, so this brought me great joy, even when the songs weren’t all that good. One in particular comes to mind: Not that the lyrics were bad, but the tune was a bit dreary and dirge-like. “And They’ll Know We Are Christians by Our Love” was written by a Catholic priest in the 1960’s and became very popular, despite its f-minor tune. Do you know this song?

We are one in the Spirit, we are one in the Lord
We are one in the Spirit, we are one in the Lord
And we pray that our unity will one day be restored
And they’ll know we are Christians by our love, by our love
Yeah they’ll know we are Christians by our love

We will work with each other, we will work side by side
We will work with each other, we will work side by side
And we’ll guard each man’s dignity and save each man’s pride
And they’ll know we are Christians by our love, by our love
Yeah, they’ll know we are Christians by our love.

Paul makes the same point to the church in Thessalonica. He encourages them to stand their ground in their faith and be strengthened in their love for each other:

1 Thessalonians 3 (Common English Bible)

1So when we couldn’t stand it any longer, we thought it was a good idea to stay on in Athens by ourselves, 2 and we sent you Timothy, who is our brother and God’s coworker in the good news about Christ. We sent him to strengthen and encourage you in your faithfulness. 3 We didn’t want any of you to be shaken by these problems. You know very well that we were meant to go through this. 4 In fact, when we were with you, we kept on predicting that we were going to face problems exactly like what happened, as you know. 5 That’s why I sent Timothy to find out about your faithfulness when I couldn’t stand it anymore. I was worried that the tempter might have tempted you so that our work would have been a waste of time. 6 Now Timothy has returned to us from you and has given us good news about your faithfulness and love! He says that you always have good memories about us and that you want to see us as much as we want to see you. 7 Because of this, brothers and sisters, we were encouraged in all our distress and trouble through your faithfulness. 

8 For now we are alive if you are standing your ground in the Lord. 9 How can we thank God enough for you, given all the joy we have because of you before our God? 10 Night and day, we pray more than ever to see all of you in person and to complete whatever you still need for your faith. 11 Now may our God and Father himself and our Lord Jesus guide us on our way back to you. 12 May the Lord cause you to increase and enrich your love for each other and for everyone in the same way as we also love you. 13 May the love cause your hearts to be strengthened, to be blameless in holiness before our God and Father when our Lord Jesus comes with all his people. Amen.

 Look again at those last two verses: “May the Lord cause you to increase and enrich your love for each other and for everyone in the same way as we also love you. 13 May the love cause your hearts to be strengthened, to be blameless in holiness before our God and Father when our Lord Jesus comes with all his people” (1 Thessalonians 3:12,13). We are immediately reminded of the fact that love is an essential mark of the Christian faith. Jesus says it succinctly: “This is how everyone will know that you are my disciples, when you love each other” (John 13:35). Without love, we have no witness. Without holiness, we have no hope. We understand holiness to be a condition of being set apart from the world and for God and God alone. Truly this church was already experiencing alienation from their community and their neighbors, who persisted in their false idol worship. But holiness requires that we don’t look, act, behave, or think like the rest of the world.

John Wesley had a lot to say about our need for holiness. He understood holiness to be part of the way of salvation that begins with God’s wooing us through prevenient grace and ending in a state of “Christian perfection,” a phrase that describes the life-long process of justification, sanctification, and holiness. Wesley defined holiness this way: “It is purity of intention, dedicating all the life to God. It is the giving God all our heart; it is one desire and design ruling all our tempers. It is the devoting, not a part, but all, our soul, body, and substance to God.”

 Paul’s encouragement to continue their work in becoming blameless in their holiness is directly connected with his encouragement about the Second Coming. It is a good reminder to us, as we strive for that same alienation from secular behaviors and temptations, to keep our eyes looking forward and heavenward to the coming of Christ.

We live in a time when un-Christian things are being done in the name of “Christianity.” Purity of heart and intention are more important than ever if we are to woo the world for the sake of Christ. Look at your own behavior: Do people know you are Christian by your love? Are we really one in the spirit? Does our unity need to be restored?

May we be encouraged by Paul’s words today to act in ways that show the love of Christ in everything we think, say, do, and post.

By His Love by Kathy Schumacher

Parental Anxiety

Posted on by Betsy

It is that time of year when parents are taking their children back to school. From the newest kindergartner to the returning college senior, each of these separations is hard and many are even gut-wrenching. A mother in my church delivered her oldest son, a new college freshman, to a large university over 600 miles away. She described leaving him there as the “worst day of my life.” Her faith is strong, and her perspective is balanced, and she gave God the glory and said that she knew she has been tremendously blessed if this indeed was the worst day. Many other people have much worst-worst days. Having done the same with my two daughters, who attended a large university nine hours away, I can completely relate to her parental anxiety. I have felt it. Every parent feels it on the first day of school. What a terrible trick parenting plays on us! We work all their lives to help them grow up to be independent and sure of themselves, and then they repay us by utilizing all those skills and leaving the nest.

As we continue to dive into Paul’s letter to his church in Thessalonica, we can feel his parental anxiety coming through the pages. They were dealing with problems and persecutions for their faith, and Paul just wanted to run to their side. But like that Mom who can’t turn the car around and sit in her son’s dorm room for a semester, Paul can’t discontinue his own work to come back to check on them. So he sent his trusted friend Timothy to render assistance and encouragement.

1 Thessalonians 3 (Common English Bible)

3 So when we couldn’t stand it any longer, we thought it was a good idea to stay on in Athens by ourselves, 2 and we sent you Timothy, who is our brother and God’s coworker in the good news about Christ. We sent him to strengthen and encourage you in your faithfulness. 3 We didn’t want any of you to be shaken by these problems. You know very well that we were meant to go through this. 4 In fact, when we were with you, we kept on predicting that we were going to face problems exactly like what happened, as you know. 5 That’s why I sent Timothy to find out about your faithfulness when I couldn’t stand it anymore. I was worried that the tempter might have tempted you so that our work would have been a waste of time.

I love how Paul repeated himself when he said, “I couldn’t stand it anymore.” Have you ever felt that way when you were worried over a child? Have you ever wanted to get in the car and go and peek in their window just to assure yourself that they are alright? Have you ever called or texted too much, just to put your anxiety at ease? I have. You know, there is an antidote to this kind of worry: it’s called prayer.

6 Now Timothy has returned to us from you and has given us good news about your faithfulness and love! He says that you always have good memories about us and that you want to see us as much as we want to see you. 7 Because of this, brothers and sisters, we were encouraged in all our distress and trouble through your faithfulness. 8 For now we are alive if you are standing your ground in the Lord. 9 How can we thank God enough for you, given all the joy we have because of you before our God? 10 

When the weight of parenting gets too heavy, it is good to let it press you straight down to your knees. By turning our loved ones over to God’s care, we know we have reached out to one who loves them even more that we do and has the power to protect, guide, and save in ways that we never could. 

Night and day, we pray more than ever to see all of you in person and to complete whatever you still need for your faith. 11 Now may our God and Father himself and our Lord Jesus guide us on our way back to you. 12 May the Lord cause you to increase and enrich your love for each other and for everyone in the same way as we also love you. 13 May the love cause your hearts to be strengthened, to be blameless in holiness before our God and Father when our Lord Jesus comes with all his people. Amen.

May the Lord guide us back to each other.

May the Lord increase us and enrich our love for each other while we’re apart.

May this love strengthen us and make us holy.

Amen.

Go With God by Kathy Schumacher

Man Overboard

Posted on by Betsy

I’m finding it hard to concentrate on my writing today because a Youth Sailing Camp is happening right outside my window. There are 9 small white sailboats, a low, red motorized safety boat that is carrying the instructors, and three adult-manned jet skis making their way around the harbor. It is fascinating.

Today is the first day of camp, and earlier this morning I circled the parking lot at the marina on my run and saw the camp kids lining up in their life vests on the pier. The first thing the instructor did was to have them jump in the water. I think this was a way to get them used to being in the water before they even stepped into a boat.

Later this afternoon, I looked out and was horrified to see a sailboat laying on its side in the water. I squinted to see if a child was in the water and frantically searched to see if the red rescue boat was on the way. Where were the jet skis??? Is everything okay? Then I noticed another sailboat fall over, and one by one, they all capsized. It seems that the first day of school includes a capsizing drill, and everyone followed the instructions on how to get back in their boats and get them flipped upright again. But these classes should come with warnings for the onlookers!

As we continue our reading of Paul’s letter to his church in Thessalonica, I see the same kind of intentional training going on in his writing. He was getting them used to negotiating the often turbulent waters of this new faith community set in the middle of other faith and anti-faith communities that were not accepting of their good news. We can imagine him checking out the rigging of their boats and tightening their life jackets as he assured them that from the beginning of his relationship with them, everything had been above board and was ship-shape:

1 Thessalonians 2 (Common English Bible)

2 As you yourselves know, brothers and sisters, our visit with you wasn’t a waste of time. 2 On the contrary, we had the courage through God to speak God’s good news in spite of a lot of opposition, although we had already suffered and were publicly insulted in Philippi, as you know. 3 Our appeal isn’t based on false information, the wrong motives, or deception. 4 Rather, we have been examined and approved by God to be trusted with the good news, and that’s exactly how we speak. We aren’t trying to please people, but we are trying to please God, who continues to examine our hearts. 

By reminding them that he and his companions Silas and Timothy had been examined and approved by God, Paul took any human factor out of the equation. The church needn’t be concerned, because Paul’s motives were pure, and he spoke no falsehoods or deceptions to them. So when they were opposed, they knew they had the backing of God.

5 As you know, we never used flattery, and God is our witness that we didn’t have greedy motives. 6 We didn’t ask for special treatment from people—not from you or from others— 7 although we could have thrown our weight around as Christ’s apostles. Instead, we were gentle with you like a nursing mother caring for her own children. 8 We were glad to share not only God’s good news with you but also our very lives because we cared for you so much.9 You remember, brothers and sisters, our efforts and hard work. We preached God’s good news to you, while we worked night and day so we wouldn’t be a burden on any of you. 10 You and God are witnesses of how holy, just, and blameless we were toward you believers. 11 Likewise, you know how we treated each of you like a father treats his own children. 

12 We appealed to you, encouraged you, and pleaded with you to live lives worthy of the God who is calling you into his own kingdom and glory.

I love Paul’s use of parental imagery here. He spoke of being as gentle as a nursing mother and said that they treated the Thessalonians the same way a father treats his children. His language is not patronizing, but paternal. There is an inherent familial love that comes through his words, and by addressing them as brothers and sisters, he established the kind of relationship he wants to build and maintain with them. He was growing a great big family of followers. In verse 12, he finally made his appeal: he wanted his new family to live lives worthy of God, who calls us all into the kingdom.

What does that say to you today? Are you living your life as someone who is in training for the kingdom, or are you close to capsizing with no rescue boat on the way? What do you need to do to get back in the boat and pull it upright again?

Our Christian life together is a journey of practicing drills so that we not only survive but thrive. There is always someone in a boat nearby, ready to extend a hand when the water gets too rough. Paul, Silas, and Timothy were there for their new church. May we, the church, be there for others.

Come Sail Aweigh