The Confessional

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How many of you insist on trying to carry every single grocery bag from your car to your kitchen in one trip? I don’t know why we do this. I seem to think that it it somehow against the law to make multiple trips up and down the stairs, so I slide the handles of every single bag down my arms and stagger up 13 steps to deposit them on the kitchen counters and then collapse. Do you do that, too?

It is hard to carry heavy things. Isn’t it lovely when you find a way to set them down?

David knew all about carrying heavy things. His many sins weighed heavily upon him. If you run a checklist of the Ten Commandments, he broke almost every one. But David also knew the joy that comes with forgiveness after you lay that heavy sin at God’s feet and repent:

Psalm 37 (New Revised Standard Version Updated Edition)

Happy are those whose transgression is forgiven,
    whose sin is covered.
2 Happy are those to whom the Lord imputes no iniquity
    and in whose spirit there is no deceit.

3 While I kept silent, my body wasted away
    through my groaning all day long.
4 For day and night your hand was heavy upon me;
    my strength was dried up as by the heat of summer. Selah

I have admired the sacredness and promise of the confessional booth. While protestants do not follow a practice of confessing sins to a priest, the visual example of that ornate box while sitting in a worship service must bring comfort to Catholics during mass. It is a visible, tangible reminder of the nearness of God’s grace, and that every single confession is guaranteed to be received with forgiveness.

All you have to do is come.

5 Then I acknowledged my sin to you,
    and I did not hide my iniquity;
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord,”
    and you forgave the guilt of my sin. Selah

6 Therefore let all who are faithful
    offer prayer to you;
at a time of distress, the rush of mighty waters
    shall not reach them.

God is our hiding place, where we can take our sins into the sacredness of his presence and be assured of redemption. God hears us when we confess and delivers us from the harm that sin brings.

7 You are a hiding place for me;
    you preserve me from trouble;
    you surround me with glad cries of deliverance. Selah

Are you carrying a burden of sin that is just too heavy to keep lugging around? The “confessional booth” of God’s heart is always open. Just come.

Hyde Park, London

A Great Idea

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A new reader of my devotionals sent me a message saying he had a great idea: He thought I should publish a book of my devotionals. This exchange made me realize that I do not do a very good job of making my four books available to people who read my daily devotionals! As Christmas is on the horizon, I thought I would do a little humble self-promotion today and offer links for my books, in case you are looking for Christmas present ideas. You’ll see the first one is a book of Advent devotionals, so you may want to pick one up for yourself. Advent begins on November 30th this year.

ADVENTuring to the Manger is a book of 25 devotionals to help you get ready for Christmas. Together we journey to that miraculous time when dirty shepherds, regal wiseman, vibrant angels, and a humble, tired couple stood around a feed trough and worshipped a tiny baby who was God incarnate. It’s the best way to get ready for Christmas and it doesn’t involve shopping or baking.

Psalms by the Sea is a collection of 30 devotionals on the Psalms. In ancient times, the people of God found catharsis and release by singing songs of joy, pain, hope, lament, sorrow, celebration, tragedy, and fear. We can face these uncertain times the same way by studying the Psalms.

ReLENTless Devotion Spend the days between Ash Wednesday and Easter Sunday diving deeper into your relationship with God through reflection, renewal, and re-examination. These 40 devotionals explore the Messianic prophecies, the poetic voices of the Psalms, the Gospel writers’ first-hand accounts, and Jesus’ own words. This book can be a part of practicing the Lenten disciplines of study, meditation, prayer, service, self-examination, repentance, fasting, and worship.

Mourning Break Co-written with my dear friend Lisa Mahaffey, this book tells the stories of people’s encounters with grief and provides understanding from a Biblical perspective about where God is active in those moments. Grief is a journey we all must take and there are no shortcuts or U-turns as we experience shock, regret, denial, anger, etc. This book can be the perfect gift in lieu of flowers when someone has just lost a loved one.

Each book is under $14.00, making them affordable. I hope you take a look and see if you or someone you love might benefit from them. Thank you for reading and thank you Bill for this great idea!

World Famous Broccoli

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For some reason, my five-year-old grandson is in love with my broccoli. Like most five-year-olds, he can be a little picky when it comes to food, so I am delighted that we found something he likes. And it is akin to a fabulous Julia Child recipe: steam fresh broccoli in the microwave, add butter and salt. Voila! Bon Appetit!

We had all six grandchildren together last week and I served the aforementioned broccoli. Layne excitedly declared, “GUYS! We’re having Nana’s World Famous Broccoli!” He needs to be an Influencer when he grows up. They devoured it like it was Boeuf Bourguignon made by the French Chef herself.

This is a demonstration of the power of a positive word. Not only does he make me feel good, he convinces his peers to eat something healthy. Positive words can go a long way in changing the atmosphere for the better.

Paul knew a thing or two about the power of words. With his words he was able to build the church, convert pagans and Jews, and establish the Gospel across the known word. He also understood how effective words of affirmation could be:

Ephesians 4 (New Revised Standard Version)

29 Let no evil talk come out of your mouths but only what is good for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear. 

Paul wrote these words while he was in prison in Rome. He took that time to think deeply about matters of faith. Ephesians is said to be some of his best theology. Rather than addressing specific situations in specific churches, he let the Holy Spirit guide him through a deeper understanding of Christ’s death and resurrection, particularly focusing on grace.

Do you give grace with your words to others, or do condemnation and judgment flow out of your mouth? Do people hear the echoes of Jesus in your conversations, or do you sound like everybody else on the street?

Let’s end by looking at the entire passage, which gives new rules for our new lives:

25 So then, putting away falsehood, let each of you speak the truth with your neighbor, for we are members of one another. 26 Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and do not make room for the devil. 28 Those who steal must give up stealing; rather, let them labor, doing good work with their own hands, so as to have something to share with the needy. 29 Let no evil talk come out of your mouths but only what is good for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with which you were marked with a seal for the day of redemption.31 Put away from you all bitterness and wrath and anger and wrangling and slander, together with all malice. 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you.

Today’s challenge: Be kind.

Ephesus

Ingratitude

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Few things in life bother me more than ingratitude. It boggles my mind when someone extends themself with generosity and thoughtfulness only to be met with silence or worse, to be taken for granted. When I receive any expression of gratitude it means the world to me. A text, a well written thank you note, a gift card to a favorite restaurant … I have been the grateful recipient of other people’s gratitude, and it encourages me and makes me happy to know that my effort was acknowledged. I met recently with a young woman for pastoral counseling and was delighted to receive a handwritten card from her a few weeks later. That meant my time with her was appreciated, and that brought me joy.

On the other hand, I once drove five hours to officiate a funeral and did not receive any thanks in any form, not even from the funeral home that surely was handsomely paid for their services. The funeral director knew how far I had to travel, yet even my gas was not reimbursed. My time spent writing the sermon and planning the service, coordinating with the musician, organizing the bulletin, in addition to the long day, was met with ingratitude. I hope, at least, the Lord was pleased with my effort.

Jesus felt this frustration, too. In our passage from Luke, he extended himself to ten lepers and healed them. Watch what happens next:

Luke 17 (Common English Bible)

11 On the way to Jerusalem, Jesus traveled along the border between Samaria and Galilee. 12 As he entered a village, ten men with skin diseases approached him. Keeping their distance from him, 13 they raised their voices and said, “Jesus, Master, show us mercy!”

14 When Jesus saw them, he said, “Go, show yourselves to the priests.” As they left, they were cleansed. 15 One of them, when he saw that he had been healed, returned and praised God with a loud voice. 16 He fell on his face at Jesus’ feet and thanked him. He was a Samaritan. 17 Jesus replied, “Weren’t ten cleansed? Where are the other nine? 18 No one returned to praise God except this foreigner?” 19 Then Jesus said to him, “Get up and go. Your faith has healed you.”

Ten were healed. One gave thanks. And he was a Samaritan, the sworn enemies of Jews like Jesus, making this all the more profound.

This story is a great reminder to us that giving thanks is part of our faith. Giving praise is part of our faith. Acknowledging and appreciating all that God has done for us is part of our faith! You may be familiar with the “ACTS” of prayer: Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, and Supplication. Thanksgiving is woven into the very fabric of our relationship with God.

Lest the Lord think we all take him and his wonderful blessings for granted, may we pause right now to fall at Jesus’ feet like a healed leper and give thanks.

Étretat, France

Kingdom Come

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When do your Christmas decorations go up? I feel as though people decorate earlier and earlier. In the past, it seemed as though decorations started to appear the weekend after Thanksgiving, beginning with outdoor decorations. A tree might go up somewhere around the middle of December, especially if you use a live tree with a short shelf life. There is nothing worse than having your tree die before Christmas!

But lately it seems that Christmas immediately follows Halloween. Take a look around your neighborhoods and see if that is true where you live. Perhaps it is an economy of effort, as you might as well take advantage of ladders and steps tools already being out for the removal of Halloween decor. And nothing ages faster than Halloween decor in November.

Advent will begin on the Sunday after Thanksgiving this year, in November. It seems as though even the lectionary calendar is rushing us toward Christmas.

But while we are still in October, let us dwell in the moment of realization that a messiah was needed before we get to the manger. Isaiah is probably my favorite book in the Old Testament, and this passage resonates with the hope and heartache of a nation in diaspora who longed for a messiah to come in order to be delivered:

Isaiah 11 (Common English Bible)

A shoot will grow up from the stump of Jesse;
    a branch will sprout from his roots.
2 The Lord’s spirit will rest upon him,
    a spirit of wisdom and understanding,
    a spirit of planning and strength,
    a spirit of knowledge and fear of the Lord.
3 He will delight in fearing the Lord.
He won’t judge by appearances,
    nor decide by hearsay.
4 He will judge the needy with righteousness,
    and decide with equity for those who suffer in the land.
He will strike the violent with the rod of his mouth;
    by the breath of his lips he will kill the wicked.
5 Righteousness will be the belt around his hips,
    and faithfulness the belt around his waist.

The humble nature of this messiah is proclaimed right off the bat. By stating that this “shoot” will spring from Jesse and not David reminds us of the humility of the messiah yet to come. David was a king, and Jesse was a plain farmer and shepherd. While both are part of the messiah’s lineage, to name Jesse as the stump is to indicate that this savior would not appear as royalty. Amazing!

6 The wolf will live with the lamb,
    and the leopard will lie down with the young goat;
    the calf and the young lion will feed[c] together,
    and a little child will lead them.
7 The cow and the bear will graze.
    Their young will lie down together,
    and a lion will eat straw like an ox.
8 A nursing child will play over the snake’s hole;
    toddlers will reach right over the serpent’s den.
9 They won’t harm or destroy anywhere on my holy mountain.
    The earth will surely be filled with the knowledge of the Lord,
    just as the water covers the sea.

Good news for the vegans! This seems to indicate a return to the beginning of creation, when all creatures lived in harmony and there were no carnivores on the earth. It wasn’t until Genesis 9: 2-3 that humans were given dominion over the earth’s creatures and meat was added to their diet. When the messiah comes to reign, even the lion will eat straw and the children will be safe around snakes.

10 On that day, the root of Jesse will stand as a signal to the peoples. The nations will seek him out, and his dwelling will be glorious.

“On that day.” We already know the end of this story as it bore fruition with the birth of Christ. We now anticipate Christ’s second coming, which will fulfill all the promises of peace and harmony that the world today so desperately needs. Let’s not jump ahead too quickly but allow the seasons to unfold slowly as we wait. Jesus is coming! Let us take time to get ready.

Harvest Moon at Sunrise by Stacy Murphy

Meeting William

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William is a sweet little goat who recently traveled the Seine River with a group of adventurers. I was blessed to meet William one afternoon after spotting him peeking out of his friend Duncan’s backpack as we hiked cliffs and visited cathedrals. I noticed that Duncan, who otherwise was traveling alone, would remove William and seat him at the table for cheese and macaron tastings, etc. and to be perfectly honest, I initially found it a little “different.” But I quickly realized that William must have an amazing back story, so I boldly approached Duncan to gently inquire about William. I had a feeling that grief was involved.

As it turned out, William was the constant companion of Duncan’s wife Denise when she went through cancer treatments. He bravely attended every chemotherapy session, was in the bed with her after every surgery, and listened attentively at every doctor’s appointment. Denise’s best friend had given William to her as a gift and William proved to be faithful, reliable, and always cheerful.

When Denise passed away, Duncan and William stayed home for a few years until they realized that Denise would have liked to see the Seine River, so off they adventured together. Duncan showed me the camera roll of pictures he had taken of William to show his daughter and the friend who gifted William to Denise. My favorite was a series of three images taken at the sunny hillside apple orchard where we had sampled cider. The first showed William contentedly sipping the first cider, the one with the smallest alcohol content. The next showed William slightly off-kilter as he sipped the more alcoholic one. The third showed William face-planted into the glass that contained the high alcohol content cider that tasted like flavored kerosene when I sipped mine. As you can see, Duncan was enjoying his role as William’s travel log scribe!

I noticed on our small riverboat that as soon as William’s story was shared, Duncan was never alone at meals or on the bus again. Nobody could resist William’s charm. Or Duncan’s, for that matter.

Everybody handles grief differently. That’s the thing about grief: There is no one way to work through it. Nobody hands you a step-by-step manual when your wife dies. Nobody can describe every milestone of recovery and hand you a chart to check your own progress. It is exhausting, numbing, debilitating, and necessary. We all go through it at our own pace, and the smart ones go through it with the support and comfort of family, friends, support groups, and churches. Or a little stuffed goat who loves to travel and make friends.

Matthew 5:4 (New Revised Standard Version)

4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

I have grieved in my lifetime and know I will grieve again. But watching Duncan and William negotiate their grief together gave me encouragement. Jesus assures us that we will be comforted as we grieve and gives us the promise of his presence. In John 14 he reminds us that he will never leave us orphaned but will return to fetch us in due time. To me, that is the greatest comfort of all.

Are you grieving today? I wish you moments of soft reflection, the hint of break-through joy, and the companionship of a stuffed goat to soothe you along the way.

Macarons? Oui, oui!

King Tides

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I got a phone call from my oldest daughter last night asking if I was in a hurricane. The question surprised me, as yesterday’s weather was stunning, It was perfect example of how gorgeous fall is on the Outer Banks. The temperatures were in the 70’s, the sun shone brightly but wasn’t scorching, there was a gentle breeze all day, etc. My running partner and I met at the Wright Memorial for a pleasant five-mile run and truly the day couldn’t have been nicer. I assured my daughter that I was fine, and she explained that a friend had just seen a news report of houses falling into the ocean due to a storm here.

Indeed, houses have recently been reclaimed by the sea on the beaches south of us. These fragile homes have been the victim of beach erosion over the years. The two hurricanes that recently swept past the east coast brought winds and waves close enough to destroy ten unoccupied beach houses. The damage is horrific, and now the rest of the nearby homes are threatened with floating debris as the county workers and volunteers scramble to clean up the remains of these once beloved homes. But even more threatening is the effect of the destructive power of an incoming King Tide.

“King Tide” is a term people in coastal areas use to describe exceptionally high tides. Tides are long-period waves that roll around the planet as the ocean is “pulled” back and forth by the gravitational force of the moon and the sun as they interact with the Earth in their monthly and yearly orbits. Higher than normal tides typically occur during a new or full moon (such as this week’s stunning Harvest moon),  and when the moon is at its “perigee”, meaning when it is nearest to the earth. We are in King Tide season in the Outer Banks.

In our passage today, Paul warns of a different type of destructive power.

Ephesians 2 (Common English Bible)

2 At one time you were like a dead person because of the things you did wrong and your offenses against God. 2 You used to live like people of this world. You followed the rule of a destructive spiritual power. This is the spirit of disobedience to God’s will that is now at work in persons whose lives are characterized by disobedience.

Disobedience is a soul-destroying force that we all contend with. Pulled to and fro by the destructive spiritual power of Satan, we are tempted and beguiled to turn away from God as we succumb to the pleasures of this world. Paul warns us that these offenses turn us into dead people.

The pull on us is as forceful as a King Tide, but we know where to go to resist it.

1 Corinthians 10 (Common English Bible)

13 No temptation has seized you that isn’t common for people. But God is faithful. He won’t allow you to be tempted beyond your abilities. Instead, with the temptation, God will also supply a way out so that you will be able to endure it.

Is something tempting you today? Are you about to give in to something you shouldn’t ? Lord, lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil this day! Amen.

Harvest Moon Over Avalon Pier by Michelle Robertson

Chocolate Beans

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Today’s devotional is a follow up to the previous one where I discussed bringing my rusty French speaking skills out of the dull chambers of my high school mind and tried to communicate in France. Some of my attempts worked, but others … well, you be the judge.

We were in a small chocolatier watching a demonstration of how chocolate is made. Our local guide (the one who had encouraged my French) was giving us a talk on the history of chocolate, from the very first discovery of the cocoa bean to the present. The store owner had a large cocoa pod on the counter that contained beans. She described how the beans were used as currency due to their high value once certain foreign royal courts discovered the magic of “le pot du chocolat chaud,” or hot chocolate. When the cocoa beans were first introduced in France, however, the king rejected them because he thought they looked like “goat poo,” as the store owner delicately explained, and thus missed out on immense riches that others were able to snatch up as they rushed to procure the beans.

The missed opportunity and the reference to “goat poo” struck my high school brain hard and I said aloud, “Oh merde!” (Google it.) The three French ladies working behind the marble chocolate slab began to giggle and our local guide laughed and told me I was right. I probably shouldn’t have said that, but I was relieved that it made everyone laugh.

The writer of Ecclesiastes has something to say about this:

Ecclesiastes 5 (Common English Bible)

2 Don’t be quick with your mouth or say anything hastily before God, because God is in heaven, but you are on earth. Therefore, let your words be few.

Have you ever blurted out something only to instantly regret it? Have you ever spoken a word in anger that seemed rash a few hours later when you calmed down? Have you wished you hadn’t fired off an email in haste? We all have these moments. It is in those moments that we need to pause, breathe, and ask the Holy Spirit to come and duct tape our mouths for a few hours.

Solomon reminds us that God is always watching and listening. He advises that we should consider our words and minimize the impact they might have on a situation. Thoughtful repartee is what is needed in this world of mudslinging and name calling. Indeed, it is often better to just shut up.

May our words be a sweet as chocolate today, and may others be blessed by our consideration.

Chocolate Making

Babbling

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A recent trip to France allowed me the opportunity to practice my very limited and rusty French speaking skills. I had a wonderful teacher for four years in high school and took the required college levels for my degree. This teacher was insistent that we practice the proper accent and cadence of the language, imitating the “lilt” that native French folks use when they speak. A lot of that came flooding back to me as I interacted with people, and it didn’t take long before words were popping up in my head that I hadn’t thought about in years. One tour guide was very complimentary and invited me to stay and practice more. That emboldened me to carefully order lunch in a different town the next day (after practicing in my head for a few minutes) only to have the waitress respond to me in English. She asked me if I was Canadian. Mon Dieu!

Have you ever wondered how the different languages evolved? Why is it that we don’t all speak Adam and Abraham’s Hebrew?

Genesis 11 (The Message)

11 1-2 At one time, the whole Earth spoke the same language. It so happened that as they moved out of the east, they came upon a plain in the land of Shinar and settled down.

3 They said to one another, “Come, let’s make bricks and fire them well.” They used brick for stone and tar for mortar.

4 Then they said, “Come, let’s build ourselves a city and a tower that reaches Heaven. Let’s make ourselves famous so we won’t be scattered here and there across the Earth.”

5 God came down to look over the city and the tower those people had built.

6-9 God took one look and said, “One people, one language; why, this is only a first step. No telling what they’ll come up with next—they’ll stop at nothing! Come, we’ll go down and garble their speech so they won’t understand each other.” Then God scattered them from there all over the world. And they had to quit building the city. That’s how it came to be called Babel, because there God turned their language into “babble.” From there God scattered them all over the world.

These were the descendants of the Ark, years after the great flood. God had given them the direction to scatter throughout the earth and fill it (Genesis 9:1) and so their gathering to build themselves a city was in direct disobedience to his word. The mortar that they used was the same type that was mentioned in Genesis 6:14 as the type Noah used in building the Ark. It is also mentioned again in Exodus 2:3 when Moses’ mother used it to waterproof baby Moses’ little basket. So if people who are the progeny of the post-flood era truly believed the promise that God would never again flood the earth, why are they building themselves a waterproof tower? They demonstrated their unbelief.

God spotted the potential for rebellion here, and in his mercy, scattered them and confused their language so that they could never “gang up” again. The Tower of Babel is where we take the phrase “to babble,” or speak nonsense. God slowed their rebellion for a time in what amounted to a holy time-out, but if you know your Old Testament history, they would soon enough find other ways to rebel against God’s word.

As do we.

Think about how much of your day is filled with the non-sensical babble of political pundits vomiting their opinions in place of actual facts. Think about how much of your day is spent babbling with people on social media posting vapid meme after meme. Think about the babbling of a world that has turned away from God in an ever increasing cacophony of secularism. Are we much different?

God, in his mercy, is always ready to “come down” and dwell among us if we only ask and are ready to listen. May we covenant to build towers of testimony to his grace so that all may hear in one language that Jesus Christ is Lord.

Bon Soir, Paris

Rainbow Promises

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Did you know that earth is the only planet that has rainbows? Astronomer Guillermo Gonzalez recently noted that we’re on the only planet in the Solar System to get them. Rainbows form from suspended water droplets in the atmosphere that are hit by the direct sunlight when the sun is located between the horizon and 42 degrees altitude. This typically occurs just after a thunderstorm has passed and small droplets are still in the atmosphere, and the sky is clearing in front of the sun. No other planet has enough sunlight and moisture to produce the rainbow effect. We get amazing rainbows in the Outer Banks.

From a biblical perspective, God set the rainbow in the sky for one reason: To anchor his promise of a covenant relationship with us: 

Genesis (Common English Bible)

9 12 And God said, “This is the sign of the covenant I am making between me and you and every living creature with you, a covenant for all generations to come: 13 I have set my rainbow in the clouds, and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and the earth.14 Whenever I bring clouds over the earth and the rainbow appears in the clouds, 15 I will remember my covenant between me and you and all living creatures of every kind. Never again will the waters become a flood to destroy all life. 16 Whenever the rainbow appears in the clouds, I will see it and remember the everlasting covenant between God and all living creatures of every kind on the earth.”

This Scripture is a beautiful reminder to us that God is near when our hope has dried out. This Scripture is a beautiful reminder to us that God is near when our wisdom fails us. This Scripture is a beautiful reminder to trust that God is always near! When we feel helpless and find ourselves at a loss for what to do next, when some aspect of our joy has flamed out and we can’t reignite the spark anymore, and when something has truly died in us, that is when we need to remember that God can bring anything back to life by simply saying the word.

Your dead dreams, your lifeless marriage, your dry relationship with your teenager, your wasteland of a career, your hollow bank account, your terminal battle with addiction … even the division that daily is destroying our country … God can breathe life into all of these places. Jesus, the Word that was with God in the beginning, the Word that was God, is where we can place our hope and trust. Jesus’ resurrection from the dead ensures our eternal life. Because he lives, we shall live also.

So the next time you feel as though all the light has gone out of your life, look up. God can and will breathe new life by the power of his word into whatever you’ve lost. You can count on his promises.

From Heaven to Earth